Analyze the Situation, not the Backstabber

This is a really really nice article about Office Backstabbing, written by Jane Chin. Don't know her but she writes good stuff I tell you. Everything about love, relationships, and office situations. This is one of her articles I happened to stumbled upon while surfing the net. Check out her website: http://www.officedysfunction.com

Analyze the Situation, not the Backstabber

by Jane Chin
September 2, 2007

You have been backstabbed, and you are livid.

Before you light up that effigy in the likeness of your backstabbing colleague or worse, run off to tell the boss, or worse yet, run off to gossip to someone else in the
office about what just happened, you analyze the situation leading up to this incident.

This is critical to understand, so I’ll repeat:
Analyze the situation.
DO NOT analyze a backstabber’s psychology.

99% of the time, people who believe they are victims of backstabbing immediately go into backstabber psychological analysis. We try to figure out “why” a backstabber did what a backstabber did - and did to Us! We may feel compelled to get into backstabbing psychology because we believed that if we understood how a backstabber’s mind worked, we could prevent a future backstabbing. We may also invest in deep psychological analysis because we (subconsciously) wish to shift blame from self (”Why did I let this happen to me? How can I not see this coming?”) to the backstabber, this required us to identify some faulty mechanics of a backstabber?s mind.

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